Life is like a drama in which each person plays out a predestined role. Good and bad karma bring people to their fated spouses, while seemingly minor life events are harbingers of an upcoming marriage.
Life is like a big stage on which people take turns to play their roles. Behind an invisible curtain, everyone’s script has already been written. The appearance of an actor in a certain scene, his or her lines and actions, and whom the person will meet and marry have already been written in the script. Because people perform alone, they don’t realize they are lost on the stage.
So who lays down each scenario? It is the power of destiny that rules according to good and bad karma, in pre-existence and pre-pre-existence.
There once was a woman who lived frugally and worked hard to make money. One day, she lent a large sum of money to someone who never returned. She lamented the loss until her death. When she reincarnated, she chased the person down to the place where he would be born. Because everyone’s mind is cleared upon reincarnation, the vast majority of people don’t remember the details of their pre-existence.
Among a sea of blurry faces, how could she find the right person to collect the debt from? It is pre-destination that brings people to their spouses. She met the man in a curious coincidence, and fell in love with him quickly. But they betrayed themselves after getting married, bickering and fighting over minor things and assets, over a period of many years. Their unhappy marriage was her revenge against him over the debt owed from the previous existence.
Of course, there are marriages caused by good karma. There was a person who saved a lady suffering from hunger and cold. She was so grateful that she swore to repay his kindness in her next life. So the lady became his wife in this world upon reincarnation. She loved him and took care of him in every possible way, helping his business to thrive. This is how the lady repaid him with a happy marriage. Isn’t such a family common in society?
The message sent behind the invisible curtain
So can such a fate be detected underneath the appearance, or not? Sometimes we can actually receive a message sent from behind the invisible curtain. This is known as a presage.
When a bride is picked up by her husband from her parents’ home, and she looks back—or someone drops the wedding ring, or breaks something on the wedding night—these might represent messages from another space suggesting an unhappy marriage to come.
I would like to share an experience of my own. It happened in the mid-70s. One of my schoolmates got married and I was his best man. The wedding feast was held at a hotel that night, where a group of people from a funeral also dined. When we went up to the second floor, they passed us on the stairs after their dinner. Each of them wore black armbands. I was taken aback, and uttered an exclamation in my heart. Several years later, my schoolmate died of a fatal disease at the meridian of life. How sad it was!
Marriage is predestined to succeed or fail
A harbinger of marriage appears not only for the marriage itself, but also when people meet and fall in love. In my early life, a fortune-teller predicted that I would not succeed before the age of 36. During that time, I broke up with my girlfriend who was my classmate, and who had dated me for eight years. Before we went our separate ways, there were some presages.
I recall once my girlfriend came back to the city from a farm to visit her relatives. Her mother invited me to dinner. Considering the invitation was from my prospective mother-in-law, I bought two bottles of wine to make our dinner grand. On the day of the dinner, just as I was about to leave, one of the two bottles fell to the ground and smashed to pieces. The wine spilled all over the floor, and I have no clue why this happened. This was indeed a sign of misfortune, and sure enough, we later broke up.
Here is another experience of mine. An acquaintance introduced me to an assistant manager of a hotel. When we met, she gave me her business card. I unconsciously folded the card and put it in my pocket. I immediately realized that our relationship would not last long because folding indicates breaking. I took no notice and began to go out with her. Nevertheless, after nine months, her mother was worried about the unfit state of our relationship, and appeared to have symptoms of high blood pressure. Upon hearing this, I decided to stop our relationship to save her mother from a difficult situation.
So what will a sign of success look like? A month after I broke up with my girlfriend, a classmate came to visit me. He told me that his friend’s sister just got divorced in the United States, so his friend wanted to introduce her to me. I asked: “When did you receive the letter?” He said he got the mail yesterday, Aug. 15, after finishing work. After hearing his words, I thought to myself: this will work! Because Aug. 15 is the full-moon night, receiving the message of matchmaking is a sign of fortune for marriage.
We later exchanged several letters and checked our horoscopes. Sure enough, our five elements showed us to be a match for each other, and we decided to marry. I then came to the United States within half a year and started my new life. So the presage of marriage could be summarized with the words Yi Shu: spherical objects indicate success, while fragmentary things suggest failure.