Imagine if science could help people to fall in love? Through understanding how humans make sentimental bonds, we are getting closer to uncovering the workings behind that magical moment when you hear yourself thinking: “You’re the one.”
Dr. Arthur Aron researches the psychology of interpersonal relationships, social cognition, and neuroscience. His experiment in “Generating Interpersonal Closeness” aimed to discover whether people could form close and personal, if not romantic, connections in just 45 minutes.
How to fall in love with anyone, the scientific method
The experiment, which stirred-up much interest in Times Magazine, involved pairing up strangers and asking both to answer a series of 36 personal questions in turn. After the questions were answered, the pair was asked to look into each others eyes for four minutes.
The results? Both Dr. Aron and David Rowan (Wired magazine), who also did a similar social experiment, said that generally, most participants did experience emotional intimacy after the 45 minutes. Some even reported developing the beginnings of true love.
Mandy Len Catron, in her article To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This, shared that from the experiment she learned that love was more pliable than we make it out to be.
For love to grow, you need to foster intimacy and trust, and this method will help you get there.
Allowing yourself to be vulnerable through revealing personal information, coupled by gazing into another’s eyes, seems to do just that.
Even if the stars don’t align and romantic love does not ignite this time, you can assure that making positive eye contact, and being open and honest when sharing personal stories about yourself, will at least develop a firm friendship.