An online article pointed out a modern phenomenon that is likely to become one of the major factors that will cause couples to get divorced in the future. What do you think it is?
Check your symptoms against the descriptions below and let’s figure out if your relationship is in trouble.
Is this… how you hang out with your friends?
How you have lunch with your friends?
and how you “chat” with your friends?
Perhaps you feel this is not right, but when you see others looking at their phone you feel awkward if you don’t do the same; don’t you?
If you are a student, you’re probably familiar with situations like this:
If you are working, then this might be the case:
Words like “phubbing” are used to describe someone who snubs people near them for the company of their cell phone.
There are even ‘cell phone’ pedestrian lanes designed for cell phone users where they can now walk with their eyes firmly fixed on their phones without worrying about bumping into an elderly person or stepping over a child.
However, this doesn’t only happen when you’re outside, but also when you come back home.
Couples and family members no longer interact or listen to one another. Instead, each is immersed in his or her own world. You might say you don’t have time to spend with your children and your parents, but probably did not notice that you’ve actually wasted a lot of time staring blankly at the screen; giggling.
There’s a popular saying among Chinese bloggers:
“A hundred years ago, people lied in bed smoking opium. A hundred years later, people are lying in bed playing with smartphone.”
The two senses are shockingly similar.
Unconsciously, we’ve developed a terrible habit! Is it true that the first thing you do when you open your eyes in the morning is reach for your phone and the last thing you do before you go to bed at night is also checking the phone? Do you feel like you are cut off from the rest of the world when you don’t have your phone with you?
Are you aware of how serious smartphone addiction is and how it damages relationships?
Being with someone physically no longer means being with him or her socially. No wonder bloggers joke that “the world’s most remote distance is when I am right beside you yet you’re…… playing with your phone!”