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The Most Uncomfortable Chinese Wedding Speech

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In modern Chinese history, there is a very unique wedding speech, which is not only a popular topic in Chinese literary circles, but it also carries a good lesson for today’s modern people.

Liang Qichao was a learned scholar in modern Chinese history, who had knowledge of both Chinese and Western studies. One of his students, Xu Zhimo, was among the most renowned romantic Chinese poets of the 20th century. Though Xu’s life was short, he became very famous for his romantic poetry.

Lu Xiaoman was a famous social butterfly in Shanghai, who was known for her love affairs with two men — one of whom was Xu Zhimo.

Liang Qichao (Image: NTD)

Liang Qichao (Image: NTD)

The love affair between Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman

Both Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman had each been married before they met. Xu’s first marriage to Zhang Youyi was arranged by their parents. After falling in love with Lu Xiaoman in England, Xu sent a written notice of divorce to Zhang just before she gave birth to their child. Upon learning of the notice, Xu’s teacher, Liang Qichao, was outraged and criticized Xu as immoral.

Lu Xiaomen was engaged to Liang Sicheng, the son of Xu’s teacher when she fell in love with Xu. Xu was upset at the time, as he did not want to betray his teacher’s trust. But shortly after that, he fell in love with Lu, and they began to plan their wedding. Liang Qichao was very unhappy with this situation.

Realizing that the couple was truly in love, Xu’s father set two conditions for their marriage. The first one was that they must ask Liang Qichao to serve as chief witness at their wedding ceremony. The other was that they had to pay their own wedding expenses.

The uncomfortable speech

The grand wedding ceremony was held in Beijing on Chinese Valentine’s Day (the seventh day of the seventh month on the Chinese lunar calendar), which fell on October 3, 1926. Liang Qichao, as chief witness, delivered one of the most uncomfortable wedding speeches of all time. Liang Qichao said:

These strong words not only stunned the bride and the groom, but the guests as well. The speech was indeed the perfect lesson for the newlyweds.

After listening to the speech, Xu said: “I have attended Mr. Liang’s classes and heard numerous speeches, but this is by far the most impressive.”

Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman (Image: NTD)

Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman (Image: NTD)

Marriage is not child’s play, and true love should not be at the expense of others. Perhaps Mr. Liang’s wedding speech is a great stick warning to today’s people who regard marriage as child play and get divorced at will.

Translated by Joseph Wu and edited by Kathy McWilliams.

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