Every parent wants their child to grow up healthy and to be successful in life. They try to do their best to bring their child up right and to give them every opportunity. Unfortunately, good intentions are not enough. Parents need to know how to behave toward their children.
Here are seven ways that a parent can fall short in their responsibility toward their children. These behavior traits can harm a child and lead to serious long-term consequences:
- The parent intentionally makes the child feel they are worthless and that no one appreciates them, such as harshly criticizing them if they do not perform well. This can lead to anger and resentment in the child, and the feeling that they are not respected by the parent.
- Repeatedly comparing the child to other children, with the intention of forcing them to improve. This sends a powerful message to the child that they are inferior, which harms their self-esteem.
- Parents who often remind children of their sacrifices and cast themselves as victims, causing the child to feel guilty. A guilt-laden child often abandons their dreams and goals in life.
- Always talking to the child with an authoritarian tone and mannerism. The parent always portrays themselvesf as above the child and never at the same level. The parent uses an authoritarian tone when communicating with the child, along with sarcastic remarks. This humiliates the child and causes them to shy away from people.
- Parents who decide everything for the child because they assume the child does not know any better and will always make the wrong choice. This type of parent keeps a close watch over the child and makes sure all decisions meet with their approval. This assures that the child will become risk adverse and will not be able to fully function independently.
- Parents who lash out toward a child when they had a bad day, or take out their frustrations on the child. This can adversely effect the child’s self-esteem and have serious consequences on their psychological development and behavior later in life.
- Parents who humiliate a child in public or in front of their friends. Public humiliation in front of strangers, friends, and neighbors will damage a child deeply. This can cause the child to shy away from social gathering and feel ashamed of themselves.
Do you think any of the above harmful traits apply to you? If yes, it is never too late to change and undo the damage that has been done to your child. Showing love, respect, and encouragement is the best way for a child to realize a healthy and successful life.
Translated by Yi Ming
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