8 Traditional Chinese Wedding Gifts

When friends and loved ones get married, you want to choose a gift they can appreciate and cherish as they begin their life together. Careful selection of weddings gifts was of even greater importance at traditional Chinese weddings. (Image: kanegen   via   flickr /  CC BY 2.0 )
When friends and loved ones get married, you want to choose a gift they can appreciate and cherish as they begin their life together. Careful selection of weddings gifts was of even greater importance at traditional Chinese weddings. (Image: kanegen via flickr / CC BY 2.0 )

When friends and loved ones get married, you want to choose a gift they can appreciate and cherish as they begin their life together. Careful selection of weddings gifts was of even greater importance at traditional Chinese weddings. For millennia, Chinese weddings were grand occasions of ceremony and ritual, and weddings gifts contained symbolic meanings. But today’s Chinese weddings have lost their character, and the symbolism of wedding gift selection is not well understood. By exploring the rich meaning of traditional Chinese wedding gifts, you can get a sense of why traditional Chinese weddings had so many layers, and start to understand the importance of Chinese tradition to a couple starting a life in marriage.

Comb

A comb has the sense of a couple binding together, symbolic of how hair was tied up and worn in a knot by ancient Chinese people. This gift references the Chinese saying: 白頭偕老, which means: “To live together until the white hairs of old age.” There is also a hair combing ceremony the evening before the wedding.

traditional chinese wedding gifts

This gift references the Chinese saying: 白頭偕老, which means: ‘To live together until the white hairs of old age.’ There is also a hair combing ceremony the evening before the wedding. (Image: secretchina.com)

Ruler

A ruler symbolizes a couple’s measure of happiness. It wishes happiness through the measure of abundant children and marital bliss, and measures of success in their careers and professional lives.

traditional chinese wedding gifts

A ruler symbolizes a couple’s measure of happiness. (Image: secretchina.com)

Embroidered shoes

Both “shoes” and “together with” are pronounced “xié.” So giving shoes carries the meaning of staying together, and enjoying life together with mutual love and affection.

traditional chinese wedding gifts

Both ‘shoes’ and ‘together with’ are pronounced ‘xié.’ So giving shoes carries the meaning of staying together, and enjoying life together with mutual love and affection. (Image: secretchina.com)

Ruyi

A ruyi is a traditional ceremonial scepter and religious talisman. In weddings, grooms lifted the bride’s veil with a ruyi. The Ruyi holds the spiritual connotation of “may all your wishes be granted” or “as you wish.” Nowadays, even if not used to unveil a bride, a ruyi is still given by parents to wish their daughter’s marriage is everything she wants it to be.

traditional chinese wedding gifts

A ruyi holds the spiritual connotation of “may all your wishes be granted” or “as you wish.” (Image: secretchina.com)

Mirror

A mirror represents perfection and completeness, and connotes the beauty of the bride.  It symbolizes the wish that her marriage and her appearance will forever stay young and beautiful.

traditional chinese wedding gifts

A mirror represents perfection and completeness, and connotes the beauty of the bride. (Image: secretchina.com)

Grain bucket

Originally used for measuring grain, the grain bucket carries that idea into the wedding. It symbolizes the wealth and vitality of the groom, and that carefree days of being well fed and well clothed are ahead for the bride.

traditional chinese wedding gifts

It symbolizes the wealth and vitality of the groom, and that carefree days of being well fed and well clothed are ahead for the bride. (Image: secretchina.com)

Scissors

Scissors are important to traditional weddings, since they are symbolic of the necessity of tailoring clothes, especially the long robes people wore in ancient times. The meaning grows from tailoring silky-smooth robes into wishing the bride a silky-smooth married life.

traditional chinese wedding gifts

The meaning of scissors grows from tailoring silky-smooth robes into wishing the bride a silky-smooth married life. (Image: secretchina.com)

Abacus

Chinese traditionally used an abacus for calculating income and expenditure in daily life. At weddings, a 24-karat gold abacus is given to wish a new couple a prosperous life with substantial income and well-managed finances.

traditional chinese wedding gifts

At weddings, a 24-karat gold abacus is given to wish a new couple a prosperous life with substantial income and well-managed finances. (Image: secretchina.com)

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