From the first day of fatherhood, it is the lifelong duty of a good father to love, elevate, and educate his children to ensure they have the best chance of a good life ahead.
A father’s power to cultivate his child
A father may be busy at work and have many engagements outside the home, and thus leave the child in the care of the mother. Aside from providing material needs, how much influence can a father have on his child’s personal development?
A child’s intelligence
According to one study, a child’s intelligence depends largely on their relationship and bonding (or lack thereof) with their father.
Psychologist Michael Minney suggests that children’s IQs are higher when their fathers spend no less than 2 hours with them each day as compared to children with less than 6 hours per week of contact with their fathers. The research also found that a father’s influence on his daughters is greater than that of his sons, and that girls who are close to their fathers tend to excel in mathematics.
A child’s physical and mental health
From a survey conducted in the U.S., it was shown that infants who lack fatherly love show signs of anxiety, loss of appetite, depression, and are easily irritated. All are behaviors leading to the development of “lack of father’s love syndrome.”
For children who suffer from this syndrome from a very young age, the rate of school dropouts is twice as high, the rate of crime is also twice as high, and the chance that a young woman will become a single mother is three times as high.
In a family with no father, the child’s mood swings tends to be more intense, and so the child grows up to become more impulsive, displays anti-social behavior, suffers from a lack of self-control, and exhibits other traits of an extreme personality.
A child’s accomplishment
Psychological studies show that a child’s accomplishment is affected greatly by the father-child relationship. In the case of a cold relationship, a child’s performance in school is found to be poor, as there is insecurity in interpersonal relationships, low self-esteem, and high levels of conflict with others.
A child’s development
When an infant begins to learn to crawl, climb, and run, a father must have more interaction with the child. When a father has more time to participate in his children’s games, storytelling, outdoor activities, and other intellectual play, the child’s development will be greater.
As the old Chinese saying goes: “Raising a child without educating him is the fault of the father.”
As a father, have you witnessed your child’s first tears, first smile, and first step? During each stage of development, did you share in your child’s emotions and experiences?
Translated by Chau BC.